Cut the Crap! This is the name for a TV show I want to make. I am constantly doling out advice to people who are allowing drama to affect their daily lives. Let's face it - drama does not fly out of the sky and land on you; you invite it into your life. The only way to stop all the crap is to accept that philosophy and take responsibility for what happens to you in life!
At work, the Canadian School of Natural Nutrition, I constantly deal with students who are all distraught and are asking for an extension on their assignment, permission to write an exam at a later date, or simply just vanishing from the program of study because of some shit going on in life that they can't handle. Didn't anyone ever notice that everyone has a lot to handle, everyone has trauma, and everyone has stress??? If you can't handle it, then either get rid of it or learn how to manage it.
Stress is never going to go away. We all encounter stress of some kind. Just lying on the couch breathing air causes some level of stress to the body. The air has pollutants in it that the body must deal with and, perhaps the couch is not so ergonomically supporting resulting in some physical stress on your structural system (bones and muscles). Then of course we have the stress that comes along with interrelating with people. Family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances and even complete strangers cause us emotional turmoil every single day. We have to learn how to cope with the volume of stress we are subjected to each day. But even more importantly, we need to decide which ones are actually worth stressing over and which are not. So many people get their undies all tied up in a knot over the smallest, most meaningless things in life. Seriously, if you put things into perspective you will see that at least 50% of the stuff you are worrying about is really unimportant in the scope of life usually because it's stuff you have no control over anyway. If you can't control it, do you think worrying about it is going to change its course?
I think many of us fear that if we don't worry and stress about things we will become complacent or unmotivated and not accomplish things. I actually believe the opposite. Do you know how much energy and resources you would free up if you stopped all that worrying? Worrying is both mentally and physically draining. The time and energy spent on worry and stress could be freed up to allow creative juices to flow in the brain resulting in the creation of new ideas and the destruction of old, useless patterns.
The other day a young girl at my school came to me crying. She said she could not write her test because her ex-boyfriend was stalking her. He called her so many times at her place of work that she was at risk of losing her job. He bothered her at home and was simply interrupting all aspects of her life. She asked if she could write the test another day instead. Well, let me ask "is anything going to be different in two days from now?" The answer is NO unless some action is taken today to get rid of the problem. Delaying a test only creates 2 problems: 1) You have a boyfriend who stalks you, and now 2) You are behind in your studies. My solution for her then was I would allow her to delay the test but only if she was going to take this 'free' day to solve one of her problems. If you want to write the test without the same level of anxiety in a couple of days from now you need to get a restraining order against that ex-boyfriend and you need to stop feeling guilty about hurting his feelings. Every time he harasses you, call the police and have it dealt with. Who cares if it hurts his feelings? That's his issue. You want to fail school, end your chances at a new career and lose your current job all because you don't want to hurt that asshole’s feelings? Come on, does that make any sense? Really? There are many people out in the world who are deserving of our sympathies but, sweetheart, he is not one of them! Someone willing to destroy your chances at success to feed thier own needs (without giving anything back in return) should go feed on someone (or something) else.
So please, cut the crap!
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